{"id":2146,"date":"2024-08-15T14:00:59","date_gmt":"2024-08-15T18:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/?p=2146"},"modified":"2025-07-16T10:31:26","modified_gmt":"2025-07-16T14:31:26","slug":"what-to-do-after-an-angry-outburst-a-guide-to-bouncing-back","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/what-to-do-after-an-angry-outburst-a-guide-to-bouncing-back\/","title":{"rendered":"Ki sa pou w f\u00e8 apre yon eksplozyon k\u00f2l\u00e8: Yon gid pou rebondi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nou tout te deja pase la\u2014yon moman, tout bagay anf\u00f2m, epi nan pwochen moman an, w ap bouyi ak k\u00f2l\u00e8. Pet\u00e8t ou te f\u00e8 yon moun ou renmen an move repw\u00f2ch, oubyen pet\u00e8t str\u00e8s jounen an te pran w. K\u00e8lkeswa sa ki deklanche sitiyasyon an, p\u00e8di kontw\u00f2l ou ka f\u00e8 w santi w koupab, fristre, e menm plis fache.<\/p>\n

Men bon nouv\u00e8l la: Margaret Cullen<\/a> te diskite nan atik li a ke li posib pou yon moun ref\u00e8 apre yon eksplozyon k\u00f2l\u00e8 epi retounen anf\u00f2m. Ou pa oblije kite moman sa a defini jounen ou\u2014ni relasyon ou yo. Donk, kisa ou ka f\u00e8 apre k\u00f2l\u00e8 pran kontw\u00f2l ou? Ann analize li.<\/p>\n

1. Pran yon ti repo. (Wi, ou menm tou!)\"\"<\/p>\n

L\u00e8 k\u00f2l\u00e8 ap monte, pi bon bagay ou ka f\u00e8 pou t\u00e8t ou ak pou l\u00f2t moun se pran yon ti distans. Sa pa vle di ale ak k\u00f2l\u00e8\u2014se ba t\u00e8t ou espas pou kalme. Kit se twa minit oswa dis, jwenn yon kote trankil kote ou ka poukont ou ak panse ou yo. Pran yon ti repo ede ou evite di oswa f\u00e8 yon bagay ou pral regr\u00e8t pita.<\/p>\n

2. Koute siyal k\u00f2 w yo.<\/p>\n

K\u00f2l\u00e8 se pa s\u00e8lman yon emosyon\u2014se yon eksperyans fizik. K\u00e8 w ap bat vit, misk ou yo vin tansyonnen, epi souf ou vin pi rapid. Olye pou w eseye kache santiman sa yo, pran yon ti moman pou w remake yo. Ki kote ou santi k\u00f2l\u00e8 a nan k\u00f2 w? \u00c8ske se nan pwatrin ou, nan vant ou, oswa pet\u00e8t menm nan t\u00e8t ou? L\u00e8 w suiv sansasyon sa yo, ou ka k\u00f2manse konprann k\u00f2l\u00e8 w pi byen, e li ka menm k\u00f2manse dispar\u00e8t poukont li.<\/p>\n

3. Ba li yon non pou donte li.<\/p>\n

Yon fwa ou fin konprann kijan k\u00f2 w ap reyaji, li l\u00e8 pou w bay emosyon w yo yon non. \u00c8ske w santi w fristre, irite, oswa w nan yon gwo k\u00f2l\u00e8? Di sa w santi av\u00e8k presizyon kapab yon bagay etonan. Se tankou frape pwen ideyal la sou yon raket tenis\u2014toudenkou, tout bagay sanble pi fasil pou jere.<\/p>\n

4. Montre k\u00f2l\u00e8 ou gen konpasyon.\"\"<\/p>\n

Sa ka par\u00e8t dw\u00f2l men eseye trete k\u00f2l\u00e8 ou av\u00e8k jantiy\u00e8s. Apre tou, li f\u00e8 pati de ou, menm jan ak nenp\u00f2t l\u00f2t emosyon. Imajine kenbe k\u00f2l\u00e8 ou menm jan ou ta kenbe yon tibebe k ap kriye\u2014av\u00e8k swen ak dous\u00e8. L\u00e8 ou sispann goumen ak santiman ou yo epi ou k\u00f2manse aksepte yo, yo p\u00e8di anpil nan pouvwa yo sou ou.<\/p>\n

5. Padone t\u00e8t ou.<\/p>\n

Men pwobl\u00e8m nan\u2014l\u00e8 ou fache, sa pa f\u00e8 ou yon move moun. Nou tout p\u00e8di kalm nou pafwa. Sa ki enp\u00f2tan se kijan ou jere sa apre. Donk, padone t\u00e8t ou. Si ou bat t\u00e8t ou, sa ap s\u00e8lman kenbe ou bloke nan yon sik wont ak negativite. Okontr\u00e8, pratike padon t\u00e8t ou, epi w ap w\u00e8 li pi fasil pou ou avanse epi f\u00e8 bagay yo mache byen.<\/p>\n

Avanse av\u00e8k atansyon\"\"<\/p>\n

Atansyon se yon zouti pwisan l\u00e8 w ap pale de jere k\u00f2l\u00e8. L\u00e8 w rete prezan epi konsyan de emosyon w yo, ou ka kenbe t\u00e8t ou anvan w eksploze\u2014e menm si w p\u00e8di k\u00f2l\u00e8 w, w ap konnen kijan pou w reprann li.<\/p>\n

Kidonk, pwochen fwa ou santi k\u00f2l\u00e8 ap monte, sonje: Li pa gen pwobl\u00e8m pou ou santi sa w ap santi a. Av\u00e8k yon ti atansyon, ou ka transf\u00f2me k\u00f2l\u00e8 ou an yon op\u00f2tinite pou grandi ak konprann. Epi kil\u00e8 ou f\u00e8 yon gwo k\u00f2l\u00e8? Kounye a ou konnen egzakteman kijan pou ou rebondi.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nou tout te deja la\u2014yon moman, tout bagay anf\u00f2m, epi nan pwochen moman an, ou ap bouyi ak k\u00f2l\u00e8. Pet\u00e8t ou te f\u00e8 yon move repw\u00f2ch ak yon moun ou renmen, oubyen pet\u00e8t se estr\u00e8s jounen an...<\/p>","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2150,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"0","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2146","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2146","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2146"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2146\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2150"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2146"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2146"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vcs-inc.org\/ht\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2146"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}